Sometimes what is broken cannot be mended. Sometimes what is lost can not be found again. Sometimes what is ended is final. So it can be with love once felt, and marriage once committed to.
Corey left his family this week. On Monday he packed his cameras and his computers and his clothes into his car and headed back to Colorado. There he will resume his old life, his old job with the county sheriff's department. For now he will live with his father.
Why? This kind of broken is a long process. Corey was not happy here. That the relationship had faded was becoming obvious, but the sudden announcement that he was leaving was a shocker to everyone. Just as with his job here, we all had two weeks notice. Yes, he intends to return to visit his children, but the distance is great in miles, and also in emotional damage.
I'm sure this was not an easy decision for Corey. He will need the love and support of his family in Colorado.
Jill and the kids went off to school Monday morning, knowing Daddy would be gone when they returned home. None of them made it through the day, too upset to be anywhere but home comforting each other. They went home at noon.
Jill and the kids will be all right eventually. Jill is strong, and has essentially been a single parent much of the time over the last eight years because of work schedules and the move to Seattle.
Now there will be lawyers and hurt feelings and financial stress in this transition time. There is sadness and a sense of failure, and there will be anger. We will try not to fix blame.
Jill and the kids have a large, supportive family here. We will take care of them.
I read a quote over the weekend about mothers: "A mother is only as happy as her least happy child." We're all a little low on happiness right now.
Update: Tom and I went to Isaac's baseball game this evening. Isaac was having fun with his teammates. Jill was busy being the team scorekeeper. Irene reports that the school day "was just like any other". They are back to "normal", and life goes on.
Resilience is a wonderful thing.