Sunday, February 8, 2009
A Glass The Contents of Which Are At Mid-level
We all have our pet peeves, don't we? One of mine was activated yesterday, but I graciously kept my mouth shut. The conversation went something like this: "She is a very negative person." "Oh, she's a glass half empty kind of person." "Yes." You may remember that I described myself as a glass half empty sort of person a while back. I said that I would rather be pleasantly surprised than bitterly disappointed. Some would say I was a pessimist. I preferred the term "realist". Some of you identified, some encouraged me to become "hopeful". One wisely said she was a half a glass person, no valuation attached. Half full, half empty, half a glass, half-assed. Whatever. Why do we ascribe a valuation, a judgement, to something that is a matter of style, not character? When I say I look at things as half empty, that means there is more to do. Get busy! That is not negative. It indicates a person who is not satisfied with half a job. How can we make it better? I suppose alternately, a half full person wants to acknowledge the accomplishment so far. Half is good, more might be better, but we've made progress. Look on the bright side. Either way you look at it, the reality is that the valuation comes in what one does next. Character is determined by what you do about the missing half.